"In one of your posts you said that "I've been bouncing
back and forth between diets since high school, and I've been through
about 4 in the past 4 months (no lie!)". Believe me, you are
not alone in this - thousands of other women do the same thing.
Diet after diet, year after year, and in most cases the end result
is you are heavier than when you started. I don't know if you are
currently at your heaviest weight, but I wouldn't be surprised if
you are. And this is despite dieting since high school and starting
a different diet every month.
Okay, let's review the situation.
Why, despite constantly "dieting" are you having difficulty
Could it be that you want to lose
weight, but you don't want to change your eating habits? You want
to go on doing the things you normally do - eat the same as everyone
else, eat the things you have always eaten at your favorite restaurant,
snack on the same foods you normally snack on? I understand this
perfectly. None of us want to give up the things we like, which
is why it is so important to want to lose weight MORE than you want
You also said in one of your posts
"I'm so tired of feeling fat...!"
What has happened to change this
desire to change? Is it that when you are faced with a decision
about what to eat, you put your desire to lose weight to the back
of your mind and only bring it out again after you've eaten what
you want? Again, this is perfectly normal but if you continue to
do this then it really doesn't matter how many diets you go on -
you will never lose weight.
Somebody wrote to me a while back
and said "I can't stand diet tedium and have tried every diet,
pill and supplement on the market". This person was in her
mid-50's, weighed over 200 pounds and has been dieting since her
Even though I knew exactly what she
meant, I asked her did she ever think about it the other way round?
For example, how about saying to to herself "I can't stand
the restrictions of being overweight, it's so boring. I want to
enjoy the rest of my life without these restrictions."
You see, everything has a price:
If you eat what you want, the price is you put on weight. If you
stick to your diet, the price is you can't eat everything you want.
It applies to everything in life:
If you spend all your money as you earn it, the price is you don't
have security. If you don't work hard in your job, the price is
you don't get promoted. And so on. WE CHOOSE what we think is worth
the effort and what isn't.
So, the bottom line is, what do you
want? Do you want to lose weight, and feel and look better? Or,
do you want to continue eating the same and feeling the same as
you do now?
You've got your whole life ahead
of you and you can either spend it worrying about weight or you
can decide now to get rid of that weight and get on with other more
exciting things. Either way, it's your call.
At some point, you need to get off
the fence and go for it."